Mother and Daughter: a duet
Mother and Daughter: a duet - Sampurna Chattarji
Mother and Daughter: a duet
When she gets angry, she smiles
and sweetly excusing herself
she flees to the kitchen
and picks up the knife.
There, with a wild and murderous rage,
she chops and cuts and slices and dices
carrots potatoes cauliflower and cabbage:
the picture of a dutiful wife.
She weeps over onions
she gouges out eyes
she grinds her teeth with the spices
and she roasts and she fries.
She burns the milk she churns the curd
she minces the meat and she utters not a word.
She boils the water.
She simmers the tea.
She teaches her daughter:
“Girl, don’t you be like me.”
…
The last thing I want,
mother,
is to grow up
to be you.
So patient
so docile
so kind and so mild.
So eager to wait upon
your husband and child.
So loving
so slaving over a hot fire.
So quick
to whip up a meal or a snack.
So fleet with your fingers
with a stitch or a tack.
So silent in grief
so alone so bereaved
so forgotten
so left behind
so taken for granted and under-achieved.
So blamed
so worried
so self-defeated so harried
so sad
so glad
to be a mother and a wife all your life.
No,
I won’t be you.
Never. Not me.
But first,
I’ll just get my husband
his tea.
From 'Sight May Strike You Blind (Sahitya Akademi, 2006) © Sampurna Chatterji 2006. Used by permission of the author.