Birth Day: The Video
The space of writing does not open like a door even though it is the
eve of your first birthday and the windows of our city shimmer
tonight like candles waiting for the big breath of a wish. We videoed
your birth, your mother and her midwives and I together in the
bedroom of our house; we thought of our first present to you as the
address of your birthplace, the familiarity of your first bed. You were
stuck in transition for a long time. I tell you this not to exact a price
but because of the way my eyes were opened on your mother that
day; away from where she groaned in the bedroom we took ourselves
aside and discussed a C-Section, the trip to the hospital unless or if.
I admired her also the way I admire athletes, exerting herself for a
purpose – we used this language to prepare ourselves – those groans
were the groans of a woman who did not allow the body to stop her.
But I find it hard, almost impossible, to watch the video now; it
unshields me in a way I did not think it would, in a way being there,
holding her, then you, did not. When I say I will write this, she tells
me, Remember how she was born because they lost the sound of her heart,
why I had to push so hard and fast, tearing the skin because of that silence. May
this always be a gift we give; we could not wait to hear you.
from Big Breath of a Wish (Wolsak and Wynn, 1998), Richard Harrison 1998, used by permission of the author and the publisher