Ode to the Hymen
by Sharon Olds
Ode to the Hymen - Sharon Olds
Ode to the Hymen
I don’t know when you came into being,
inside me, when I was inside my mother-
maybe when the involuntary
muscles were setting, like rose jello.
I love to think of you then, so whole, so
impervious, you and the clitoris as
safe as the lives in which you were housed, they would have
had to kill both my mother and me
to get at either of you. I love her, at this
moment, as the big fortress around me, the
matronhead around the sweetmeat
of my maidenhead. I don’t know who
invented you-to keep a girl’s inwards
clean and well-cupboarded. Dear wall,
dear gate, dear stile, dear Dutch door, not a
cat-flap nor a swinging door
but a one-time piñata. How many places in the
body were made to be destroyed
once? You were very sturdy, weren’t you,
you took your job seriously-I’d never
felt such pain-you were the hourglass lady
the magician saws in two. I was proud of you,
turning to a cupful of the bright arterial
ingredient. And how lucky we were,
you and I, that we got to choose
when, and with whom, and where, and why-plush
pincushion, somehow related
to statues that wept. It happened on the rug
of a borrowed living room, but I felt
as if we were in Diana’s woods-
he, and I, and you, together,
or as if we were where the magma from the core of the
earth burst up through the floor of the sea.
Thank you for your life and death,
thank you for your flower-girl walk
before me, throwing down your scarlet
petals. It would be years before
I married-years before I carried, within me,
a tiny, baby hymen, near the
eggs with other teentsy hymens
within them-but you unscrolled the carpet,
leading me into the animal life
of a woman. You were a sort of blood
mother to me: first you held me
close, for eighteen years, and then
you let me go.
from Odes (Knopf, 2016), © Sharon Olds 2016, used by permission of the author and the publisher